Today marks one year since I began officially dating the man I affectionally call ‘Mister’ and this blog post is about to gush. We first made acquaintance through tinder (yes, tinder) in early 2020 when the pandemic had everyone quarantined. I introduced him to Google Duo and we socialized over video calls before meeting in person. This was most ideal for me because I prefer to socialize virtually (discord).
However, I ran him off for a few months because I didn’t feel capable of commitment and after reconnecting he asked me on our first official date on January 28, 2021. We’ve been together since. Anyone who knows him personally knows how kind and supportive he will be when you confide in him. He is also very reserved and stoic, a proper southern gentleman by all standards.
Mister is not only a name I use virtually for his privacy it is also an endearing title. While I feel privileged to be any benefit to him, I am too strong willed to be a servant and Master wouldn’t work in every day conversation. In the time we have spent getting to know one another, I feel honored to call him my partner and grateful to be cared for so well.
Over the past year I have learned that it is ok for me to have preferences and boundaries, people who value me will respect me. I’ve been part of clear communication with my partner to navigate difficult situations thoughtfully. I am respected and feel appreciated, valued. I do not feel pressure or judgment and it allows me to let the pressure off myself, to explore more and fear less. He wants me to be healthy and happy, it’s amazing what unconditional love does for a soul.
We bond deepest in our enjoyment for travel, exploring new and interesting places or just getting away for a weekend. He’s an avid scuba diver and his diving photos are what caught my eye to swipe right. We’ve talked about me getting certified in the future and we’ll go excursion together. Rest assured there will be photographs when that time comes! I’m looking forward to it.
I do believe that Mister came into my life now because I took the time to heal from past toxic patterns and he is a respectable human being. The relationships I’ve held in the past were a bit more like Russian roulette, fingers crossed it’s a good one. Where Mister actually navigated my developing boundaries and affirmed his authentic care for me. He loves me for me.
I love you, Mister. 💚💋
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