Words Can Kill

To disregard feelings is to disregard a human being. We all have feelings and deserve to feel valued and appreciated by those we have in our life. Our society has a shame culture component that seems to be magnified online with belittling and devaluation in memes and trolling. All for the luls, right? Except itContinue reading “Words Can Kill”

Our Lives Are Not Universal

Humanity has held on to this concept of “common sense” to inject shame into socializing. When someone doesn’t know what you know, it can be a teachable moment. An introspect: Believing that others are stupid because they do not know what you know is a show of your impatience, not their intelligence. You do notContinue reading “Our Lives Are Not Universal”

Being diagnosed as “different”

In truth, I suspect that every human being (should they visit a psych professional) could be diagnosed with something. When you’re sad, it’s depression. When you’re on edge, it’s anxiety. We all go through an array of emotions as part of the human experience. My first diagnosis was depression in 2006 during military service. IContinue reading “Being diagnosed as “different””

Intentional Action

Often we have autopilot actions, things we will say, do or even feel as an automatic response. Developing a practice of intentional actions can increase your self awareness. What this means is you set intentions before you take action so that the actions you take are what you intend. It’s a practice in being mindful.Continue reading “Intentional Action”

Why Faking It Is Not Making It

The very foundation to ‘faking it‘ requires lies and denial. Those who practice deceit and double lives are always in a state of competition and survival. Dishonesty limits the capacity of relationships because deeper connections require authenticity and accountability. Unfortunately, there is a societal pressure: if you don’t ‘fit in’ then you’re cast out. InContinue reading “Why Faking It Is Not Making It”