Growth and self acceptance are a journey because it is looking at YOU with authenticity, removing the society-colored glasses of who you ought to be. Having the willingness to get determined about making changes for betterment and maintaining the discipline to be better today than you were yesterday. Emotions are fleeting, sometimes addicting—like any other high can be. Management and moderation are key. Meditation helps you manage your psyche. It’s like an internal training arena for patience. Do you get frustrated that you’re not focused or do you refocus to stay with your breath.
Whatever your religious or spiritual alignment, meditation is all internal. If you’re a theist, during ‘meditation’ sit silently and speak to your deity. If you’re an atheist, simply have a conversation with yourself internally. Doing this allows for a few things. First, you’re dedicating time in your day to simply exist in your own body. In guided meditation it often begins by telling you to find a comfortable position and consciously focus on your breath—this helps your mind slow down those 500 thoughts.
The most opportune time to begin practicing meditation is in the privacy of your own home, allowing yourself to find a quiet space to just sit for about 5 minutes whenever possible. Many people get frustrated that it’s ‘not working’ because their mind is still thinking 500 thoughts. Meditation takes practice and dedication, if it’s new to you then it will take time to unlearn the go-go-go mode your brain has survived on. Focusing on the breath is so commonly advised because your breathing is constant and it is a practice in mindfulness. Be mindful of your breath, focus on your breath.
When we give focus to the breath we can begin to let go of our focus on those other thoughts bouncing around. Guided meditations are great for starting out because the guide will remind you to come back to focusing on your breath. The power of google puts so many options at your fingertips. With all things in life you can take what works for you and leave the rest alone. None of us know all of the answers, we may know some. Be gentle and patient with yourself while you learn.
Resistant to meditation? Believe “It’s just some hippie shit.” Well, if your own time consists of toxicity; anger, resentments, sorrow and judgments then that is what you’re creating in your life. You do not have to believe me, you can hold your ‘hogwash’ theory about it. Although, there’s no harm in trying and millions of people around the world are beginning to embrace this internal key to a successful and joy-filled life. Doesn’t that sound inviting?
You may think, “But I don’t WANT to feel my feelings” and I’m going to suggest that subconsciously you do. You’ve become so comfortable in your pain that it feels like your identity. You have spent so much time feeling mad or sad or bitter that it feels like those emotions make up parts of your being. Who are you without suffering? It could be fascinating to discover, if you have the courage.
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