“Labels are for soup cans” was said to me during a time in my life where I’d become obsessed by the labels I’d been given, what they meant and what it said about me to be labeled. The somewhat bothersome thing about vocabulary is that words have meaning and we use these labels to help us better understand and make meaning of complex situations. Merely existing is complex, even for a minimalistic human being. We are full of emotions and impulses that left unchecked can ruin lives.
In the midst of the 2020 pandemic hatred for fellow man began to skyrocket. I do not have a chart or statistics to validate this assertion, I’m going off the rioting and overall cancel culture that began during this time. Along with the wearing of masks, vaccines and polarities over everything. Not only did everyone isolate for bodily health, many began isolating for psychological health (myself included). Everything has a branding, a label and a ‘side’ to choose. It’s dangerous.
I can and will only ever -know- my own experience in this existence. So before I go into anything further, I am a naturally blonde, blue eyed woman. I was born in southern Louisiana (Acadiana) and I personally make judgements on the way a person behaves, not their exterior or inherited factors. At 17 I enlisted into the U.S. Army and I have traveled the world. I have met and sat in conversation with people from various nations and religious backgrounds — I love humanity and I love meeting new human beings.
Unfortunately, many in this world are so filled with insecurities and fears (often from childhood, that even this mention will cause eyes to roll in denial) that I do not have the opportunity to -meet- them because their introduction to me is judgment and criticism to which my boundaries respond with distancing. I am not here to convince anyone of anything, this blog as a whole is my effort to share what I have learned while learning how to heal my own childhood and lifetime traumas.
Evolution implies growth and progress from what existed before. In the age of a world wide web of connections we have a unique opportunity to learn and grow across contents from the comfort of our home. Unfortunately, the virtual community devolved rapidly into race wars, narcissists vs empaths, pornography and projected hatreds with the delusion of anonymity. This opportunity has become an addiction of virtual validation for many. Hurt souls entice and encourage more toxicity and less compassion for our unified struggles in existence.
Have conversations with each other and grow. If you cannot converse with a person then let them go on their way, they’re not ready for the conversation and it’s ok. We do not all have to sit at the same dinner table and there’s no need to scrutinize how someone else set their table. We each evolve in our own time. I understand there are oppressors, I understand humans were fucked up in the past, I understand a lot of humans are still fucked up today, I understand our ancestors made decisions that seemed like good ideas at the time, I understand the monumental sacrifices were made for YOU to be here now. Be here now. We are in a technological era where Google is considered research. Meet people today, meet people now. Be angry for the unjust that was not deserved and be better than it.
Those who behave unjustly are deserving of being held accountable. Speak up, have a voice and develop your boundaries. If guilty parties are never brought to justice then it becomes a looming darkness overhead to this thing that remains unsolved, unresolved. And that thing will fester and grow, churning in your gut with disgust. This is how trauma works.
Generational trauma are all those ideals that got passed down and continue to poison well-being today, the toxicities that shame, blame and devalue differences. Change begins within. Wait as long as you’d like, you can either change yourself, heal yourself and progress or continue to be angry at the world for your stress. Argument is not where change happens, it’s in sincere and authentic discussion.
If you identify with the neurodivergent community, would appreciate an adult space with a focus on support and betterment, I’d like to invite you to check out my discord server! Where shame, blame and devaluation are discouraged while compassion and personal growth are encouraged. The server is designated mature (18+) and minors are promptly removed. Multiple categories allow Members to decide what sort of content they’d like to see from the server using selections in the #about-you channel after joining. You’re invited!