Make living in gratitude your daily attitude. It is not enough to say you are thankful and smile politely you -must- feel, in your spiritual being, the sense of complete gratitude. It is a warm and calm, gracious feeling. In doing this, you can live in appreciation for what you have. Also in doing this, you become more aware of the things in life that discomfort your feeling of well-being.
You will have to assess your feelings frequently, question how you’re feeling and be accountable to them. We choose how we approach everything all the time. When we feel an emotion and feed that emotion it becomes a mood that’s pervasive over time. If we stay in a mood long enough that becomes part of our character. Gratitude, kindness and even anger is a continual choice. It becomes who you are.
When we live without gratitude there are often feelings of resentment and comparison to others as being higher or lower than your self. This is a great disservice. In comparing with others you’re practicing devaluation either of yourself or of them for being lesser than the other. We are all living individual lives as a collective, only you know your own life and the same applies to everyone you know. All you know is what you’re shown. Compete only with your self.
Releasing yourself from the burden of outward competition is a way of helping you tap into an attitude of gratitude. You take yourself out of the devaluation cycle (putting you or others down for differences). You begin to see -you- more and deeply appreciate what you bring to the world. This brings up more self expression and internal well-being. Healing is changing from survival thinking to thriving thoughts and changing is not easy, it is worth it.
Change takes varying time, be patient. Always be gentle with yourself, speak to yourself with kind words. If you do not currently, make an effort to catch yourself and tell yourself “it’s ok” (may use any words to suit you, the goal being a redirect to gentle thoughts). Being gentle is not weak, you’ll see the power you feel on the other side of healing. Those who are negative believe too many lies—about themselves, about others, about life. Our behaviors are always our choice, choosing violence takes a piece of you with it.
Being insensitive is not helpful to anything. On the mirrored side, being hyper sensitive is also not helpful. Life is finding the balance. Our emotions are valid, they’re guidance and the goal is feeling your feelings so you can adjust your self to become your best being. I do not believe any soul -wants- to feel miserable and my blogs are me sharing what I have learned along the way trying to become less miserable. If it helps anyone then this blog has served its purpose to me.
Be well, sweet souls.
If you identify with the neurodivergent community, would appreciate an adult space with a focus on support and betterment, I’d like to invite you to check out my discord server! Where shame, blame and devaluation are discouraged while compassion and personal growth are encouraged. The server is designated mature (18+) and minors are promptly removed. Multiple categories allow Members to decide what sort of content they’d like to see from the server using selections in the #about-you channel after joining. You’re invited!