Releasing our emotional pains can be challenging. Who would I be without carrying around my trauma? What goals would I have if not healing and helping others navigate their own healing too? It’s not always easy to let go. Sometimes it feels a lot like self-betrayal to even consider forgiveness. Like everything in this healing journey, how to release depends on the individual.
If we do not release our traumas, then we choose to carry them with us, we have to learn how it fits in our life. Carrying my trauma serves as an example in my mind when I’m sitting with others in their pains. It provides me with an insight to what feelings may exist for them, based on what I felt in my own traumas. This is an act of empathy.
We are all conditioned in society to ‘turn the other cheek’ as our show of maturity and composure. Walking away is most ideal for leaving a situation before matters get worse. However, that situation may stick to your mind and impact your life, even subconsciously. To be free of the conflict fully, we have to release it. For me, the closest I get to release is in creativity; painting, exploring.
Therapists teach you cognitive coping skills like writing it out and mindfulness, while shamans manipulate your energy through practices. There are resources to help us work through releasing our emotional pains. Some may respond exuberantly and some continue to search. However you are able to lessen the weight of what you carry, lessen that weight. May even be a matter of removing people from your life to feel less stressed.
Personally, I have removed a lot of people from my life since I began my healing journey. At first I’d remove them angrily — the audacity! And over time I’ve progressed to removing people as a matter of fact; they do not need access to me with their chosen behaviors. While this sort of release has helped me feel less anxious overall, I still remember every moment of any unwanted circumstance in my life.
I do not view those circumstances in the same ways I have in the past and I would not want those involved to be in my life. While I struggle to let go of the memories and some still cause me pain I have released the cause from my daily concerns. I’m still figuring this one out, y’all. It’s a journey.
Be well, sweet souls. 💛
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