When our goal is making progress instead of reaching perfection we invite more gentle thoughts. Instead of thinking you may never “get it right” you may instead begin to think things like “it’s a step in the right direction” — and it is. We do not face a challenge and instantaneously solve that problem without putting in work. The progress in your work deserves celebration.
No one on earth is perfect, especially not those who think they are. We’re all doing the best with the information we know. Believing you are perfect will keep you from pursuing better. Often times leading you to devaluing others who threaten your sense of superiority or bowing to the world to keep the peace by people pleasing. While in truth: We’re not in competition with each other, the competition is with Self.
Each and every one of us has faced hardships in our life. How we handle those situations are testaments to our character. Those who choose to turn their pain against the world are protecting themself with a “tough” exterior — before you hurt me, I’ll hurt you. Meanwhile those brave souls who seek progress past the hurt will search internally for their personal betterment.
Some situations require a lot of work for a soul to release that pain. The greater the trauma, the more determination a person has to have. We do not “just get over” physical or mental abuse because we’re told that’s what we should do. In the soul “should” exists as a rule (if broken, you fail), while “could” is a possibility. If you want better in your life, you could bravely face your fears and pain until you’re no longer weighed down by them.
Releasing the pains of your past is an obvious objective, it’s getting there that differs for each of us. I’ve seen therapists, psychiatrists and healers searching for solutions to my past pains. I am still healing and I believe I will always be in some phase of healing. Even if I can master all the coping skills that best serve me, more challenges will arise—this is life.
My biggest problem in life has been unwanted sexual—shit. While I can easily understand it was a series of wrong place, wrong time, wrong people; the violation to my being remains. This is why assault victims often remain silent, it’s an unexpected and unwanted situation that even the explanations of them incite panic. I believe humanity is capable of better and it all starts with individuals healing.
Be well, sweet souls. 💛
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