Often we have autopilot actions, things we will say, do or even feel as an automatic response. Developing a practice of intentional actions can increase your self awareness. What this means is you set intentions before you take action so that the actions you take are what you intend. It’s a practice in being mindful.
As an example, say you are learning a new hobby or job task and want to be an expert immediately (a common sentiment). The US military would call this setting yourself up for failure. No one is an expert immediately. Setting the intention to be patient with yourself while you learn something new could help you absorb more quickly. The less pressure we feel to be perfect, the more receptive we become to learning and flowing with the process.
Any time we desire different in our life that requires change and we have to develop practices to support that change. We cannot work through anger management if we constantly experience unchecked anger. Awareness is the first step to change. When we’re aware of a need or want for different is when we can begin different practices.
Each of us are unique in our life experiences and completely the same in our human condition. We all require food, shelter and love. Any of these three base needs lacking will cause turmoil for any human. Love being vastly under rated because many are too wounded to embrace authentic love. Choosing instead to love superficially or not love at all in fear of being hurt (again).
Discovering self love is a magical journey. Going from loathing every fiber of existing to seeing personal value is powerful. A shift occurs in this journey where you recognize you are worthy to a fulfilled life and develop boundaries to safeguard your well-being. Nothing about self assessment or accountability are very easy, it’s the rewards of being authentic that make this journey worthwhile.
Even though I share these thoughts with y’all I am no expert in any of it, I am doing my best to find more peace and joy after a long history of chaos and turmoil. My hope is that readers find solace in my words and perhaps motivation to be better. This life is what we make of it and our psyche, what and how we think, has a great impact on the quality of our experiences. You deserve a fulfilled life, we all do.
Be well, sweet souls. 💛
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