Many will talk about the need to love yourself before loving anyone else and I believe this gets misunderstood. You do not -have- to love yourself to be lovable or to love another, there are parts of you that are always seen and often loved. However, you are likely to have unhealthy attachments if youContinueContinue reading “Self Love: 5 Pillars”
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Feelings
If you have spent most of your life bottling your feelings or suppressing yourself, the idea of feeling feelings may bring up an uneasy feeling. You’ve survived so long pretending these emotions don’t exist so you can just “push on” pretending everything is fine. And that’s worked ‘fine.’ Feelings are messy, no one wants toContinueContinue reading “Feelings”
Housekeeping
No we’re not talking dishes and laundry, we’re talking about emotional housekeeping. The interior of your boundaries and who is allowed (and disallowed) through the front door. Healing and growing can only be sustained by limiting the amount of toxins you accept into your sacred space of well-being. Over time you may learn to tolerateContinueContinue reading “Housekeeping”
Forgiveness
I’ve been healing a literal lifetime of sexual assaults beginning at age 6 up until an incident at the end of 2018–I got determined to heal and be better. I’ve got so many valid reasons to be pissed off and vengeful, I spent a lot of time in that space–and isolated because I didn’t wantContinueContinue reading “Forgiveness”
Advocation
Speaking up for yourself does not come naturally for everyone and for those who’ve experienced trauma, you may have also been conditioned or directly told to stay quiet by your abuser(s). Learning to advocate for your own well-being is a very powerful tool in developing boundaries. Understand that your needs (even your wants) do matter,ContinueContinue reading “Advocation”
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